There appears to be weird myth that being miserable in your job is fairly normal. It’s normal to not get on with your boss, think your company is terrible, to complain bitterly about it over drinks with friends.
To want to leave a job because it makes you unhappy, however, is seen as questionable. It often gets tied up with other issues, like, oh well that must mean your lazy. Or, the standard – that’s just life get used to it. Or, my favourite – you need to stop being so sensitive.
There’s probably a jab about millennials being lazy and entitled thrown in there for extra measure if you are in that age group. Represent.
I want to say something to you first of all. Leaving a job you hate it does not mean you are weak, lazy or in any way a lesser person.
Starting your own business is not easy. It’s damn hard.
It’s likely that you will actually start your business while you are still working, either full or part time. Or full time caring for your family. Work doesn’t finish at five for you, you are just getting started.
It might involve prioritising your new business over other things in the short term. It might put a strain on relationships. Your family might think you’re crazy (totally been there!). It involves learning new skills, gaining experience, ups and downs.
It is 100% totally worth it.
Less Time on What Ifs
For example, how long do you spend day dreaming about the ‘what if’? What if I started my own business? What if I could earn a little extra money on the side? What if I could travel around the world? What if I could stay at home with my family?
Trust me; starting your own business gives you a huge chunk of your mental space. I mean sure, I still think about ‘what ifs’ sometimes – but they are not work related ones. If I think ‘what if I’d stayed in the legal profession?’ the answer comes back pretty quick ‘you’d still be miserable.’
When you start your own business, the ‘what ifs’ start to melt away because you are passionately pursing your dream goal. You are too focused on going after you want to sit around wondering about ‘what if’.
You Can Prioritise Your Health
Mental health is still something that we are lagging behind in. The stigma, the reluctance to address it, the misconception that depression is any less real than a physical illness you can see with your eyes – the list goes on.
Running your own business can be stressful, don’t let me convince you otherwise. But the flexibility it can give you to allow you to look after yourself mentally and physically can be very rewarding.
You know your limits, what you can do and what you can’t do. You can build your schedule around what you need, as well as your business.
And whilst there is stress, you are also doing something you love. Which makes a huge difference when it comes to managing your health. Enduring the stress, your boss shouting, angry customers, the physically draining routine – when it’s all for someone else’s dream – is exhausting.
But when it’s for yourself, it’s much more satisfying and that is extremely comforting.
Wake Up Happy On Mondays
Think it’s impossible? If you are pursing something you love, you are excited to get up in the morning. A couple of years ago that was inconceivable to me.
Sure there are off days, tax return day for example. However, there are plenty of systems that can help you with that, not to mention that when you start growing as a business there are plenty of flexible ways to hire virtual assistants for a couple of hours to help you out with that stuff you’re not 100% hot on.
Not everyone who starts a business succeeds. But that doesn’t make it any less worthwhile. You will have learnt skills, made connections and opened many doors along the way.
For some people starting their own business is their goal, for others it’s just an important step upon their life’s journey to help them get to where they are going. The only thing for certain?